Samantha Busch gets real about the struggle with infertility
NASCAR driver Kyle Busch and his wife, Samantha, tried to have children for more than a year before they learned they both had infertility issues. They eventually sought IVF treatment at Reproductive Endocrinology Associates of Charlotte (REACH) and have a son who's about to turn 2. Samantha opens up about enduring the pain of infertility.
On avoiding marital strife:
"The only piece of advice I give people is to not fight as a couple. That's where I saw me heading. Kyle was able to stay calm through it all and level me out.
"Go through it as partners instead of turning on each other. I do feel like infertility can either strengthen your marriage, which it really did for us, or really break it.
"We lucked out. We both sucked. That's what I loved about REACH. [The doctor said,] 'You don't have any eggs, you don't have any sperm, you guys are not having a baby on your own. IVF will work, and that's the only way you guys are having a baby.' I'm a doer and a planner. 'OK, perfect, what's next?'"
On attending baby showers while struggling with infertility:
"It's a hard place, because you are happy for your friends. But you're so jealous. It's such a terrible place. One of my best friends, when we were trying to get pregnant, got pregnant. I threw her a shower. In the middle of her shower, I went to the bathroom and cried. Because I was happy for her, but at the same time, I was like, 'Wow, I really hate that you get to do this and we don't.'"
On being transparent, blunt and funny about delicate topics:
"When you come out the other side of it with a baby, you can easily talk about it [with humor]. 'Oh, my ovaries are broken. Kyle's sperm sucks.' It's easy at that point. When you're going through it, that's when it's hard. That's when it's delicate. If somebody said, 'What's wrong with your ovaries?' I probably would have jumped across the table at them. You're in such a terrible spot where you're already like, 'Why can't I have a baby. How come everybody else can get pregnant so easy?' When you're going through it, it's much harder to talk about."